This is a quick and effective NLP technique for keeping confident and focused.

Take a minute to imagine yourself riding in a roller coaster. See yourself sitting in
the front car, riding up and down.

Now, make another picture of a roller coaster, but this time, do NOT see
yourself in the picture. See it as if you were actually looking out of your own
eyes, sitting in the roller coaster. Ride for a few moments.

Now, which one of those felt more real in your body? I’ll bet anything it was
the second kind. An image or goal only appears real to your mind if it comes in
the second form, as if you were seeing it through your own eyes.

Step One:
Recall a time in your past when you felt confident and powerful. A time where
you fully felt the way you’d like to feel. This can be anywhere and
about anything - a great golf shot you made, or an “A” book report you did in
school. Running a race, scoring a goal….

Step Two:
Close your eyes, and see yourself in the first kind of picture, going through
that experience again.

Step Three:
Now, step into the picture, and see the events as if you were actually looking
out from your own eyes. See what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel how good
it felt in your body. When those feelings of confidence and power reach their
peak in your body, reach over with your right hand, and give your left wrist a
squeeze. Run through this twice more, giving the same squeeze in the same place.
This will train your mind to recall those feelings of power and confidence
whenever you squeeze your wrist the way you are doing now.

Step Four:
Think of a situation or circumstance where you would like to be more powerful at reading a book
or more poised or whatever it is you’d like.

Step Five:
Picture it the second way, as if it were going on and you were seeing it through
your own eyes.

Step Six:
As you do so, reach over with your right hand and squeeze your left wrist,
triggering your confidence anchor. This will train your mind to automatically
call up the feelings of confidence and power when you are in a situation like
the one you are seeing through your own eyes. You won’t even have to think about
doing it, which is the advantage. (And that’s why anchoring works where
“positive thinking” won’t, because often by the time you get yourself thinking
positively, it’s already too late.)

Now, once you’ve done this, I want you to do it again, but this time I want you
to pick different circumstances where you’d like to use your “power attitude”
that we talked about in the first chapter. Make one a situation where you see a
beautiful woman you’d like to talk to. Another could be making a pass at a woman
back at your place. Go through the situation with the first kind of picture,
seeing yourself in the picture. Then step into the picture, and go through it,
feeling what it would feel like, looking through your own eyes. Do the same
thing for the second “learning from your mistakes” attitude. See yourself making
a mistake, feeling ok about it, and learning whatever lesson you need so you can
do it differently next time. Then step into the picture and see it through your
own eyes.
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